Love Schmuv

12/8/10

For the past few days, some very amusing things have been happening. But they're the kind of things that people have different opinions on depending on who they are or how the think.
I personally find it amusing, and some people would label me mean and insensitive for doing so. Some people, on the other hand, would laugh together with me.

As the title suggests, this blog post is about love. And if you're a clever thinker, then you could say from the title that it's me ridiculing love, or something like that. It isn't rocket science.

Just before I start, I would like to say that I won't be ridiculing love. Some of you might misunderstand and jump the gun. I'll be ridiculing how people nowadays treat and see love.

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Love.
Usually the word that comes hand-in-hand with hate.
But why? People say hate is such a strong word, but so is love, and people just say it as if it's nothing.
Love is something that is really hard to find. It's not something that you'll find in every girl or boy that you happen to like. You see, there is such a thing as infatuation, and it's very far from love. Infatuation is the "special" fondness you feel for another person. It's a very common and familiar feeling for everybody, but it's very often that it be mistaken for love.

Love is not something to be rushed. Love is something you should always be sure of. If you like somebody, you don't automatically love that person.
A lot of people, especially among the younger generation, always want to associate themselves with love. They would always want to be connected to the people they fancy. Even if it's just simply affection or infatuation, they would jump to the conclusion that it's love. They would start doing silly and over-the-top things to "express their love". They would start saying things that are supposedly "sweet and romantic". They would start being so lovey-dovey and mushy.

Then one of the two gets sick of the shit or realizes that it was nothing but a misunderstanding.
>>"It was never love. It was just a huge crush. I overacted and I went too fast. Now, how do I get out of this mess?"
>>"Wow, boy was I wrong. I need to get myself out of this, but I don't want to come off as a jerk. Maybe, I could get him/her to break up with me. Time for plan asshole to come into play."
or, if they're both just too delusional:
>>"I don't love him/her anymore. The sparks just went away."

So, then the unluckier (or the dumber) of the two gets broken up with. That unfortunate person would feel really down in the dumps and feel like it's the end of the world. They would start hurting themselves (yeah, that's sure going to help. [yes, sarcasm]), crying, or take it out with a BF (bitch fit. yes, white chicks reference) or a rage.
>>"Oh, my golly gee whiz. What am I to do? The love of my life broke up with me! I want to die! Life isn't worth living anymore. Oh, what's the point?! Oh vey!"
>>"Aw, hell no! Oh, no she/he didn't! That bitch gonna pay."
or the occasional ball-pass:
>>"Oh, my god! I can't believe that bitch/asshole stole my man/girl! That douche is gonna pay!" (This is what I think is the most ridiculous. Would it really be the fault of the person who stole your partner, or your parter who wasn't loyal enough to stay with you? Think about it.)
and if you used plan asshole:
>>"Mission accomplished"
or, if you're like me:
>>"Aw, bogus"

P.S.: About that 'aw bogus' crap, yes, that has happened to me.
But it was a different because it was love and it was my fault it ended.
But this blog is not about me.
That's a whole different topic.

Back to the main topic:

The best medicine for 'heartbreak' is time. If you were on the receiving end of the break-up, then time will let you realize that it wasn't love and that it was all a mistake. You'll also start regretting the silly things you did for your love, but time will make you forget that as well.
And if you were the one who ended it all, time will make you stop feeling bad. Time will erase the awkwardness between you two.

Let's talk about where this even comes from:
For the youth, it comes from media. Seeing or hearing about romance in TV shows, movies or songs would make them want to feel those feelings as well. That's the pathetic thing. Sometimes, it comes from the need to look good. Some kids tend to think that relationships would make them look good. Then in the process, they become so delusional that even their minds aren't set straight and they would be able to fool themselves that it is love. There are more reasons, but it's 10:32pm and I have school tomorrow.

Now, we're at the closing remarks I always have:
This post could be hypocritical.
I used to be like that, but I learned my lesson.
The thing is, be calm and don't rush.
Take things slow and let time shed light on the situation little by little.

If you're affected by this, I don't care.
If you think I'm an insensitive jerk for writing this, I don't care.
If you think I'm so right on with this, I don't care.

These are things I learned from experience. And trust me, when I did learn it, all I could do was drown my thoughts in video games.

That's it for tonight.
To sum up the lesson:
Love is a strong thing. Not everything you feel is love.
Don't be an idiot and quickly jump to conclusions.
And when you do find love, take care of it.
Don't try too hard to come out as sweet and caring and loving
You'll find love when you just be yourself, because love would be when your partner loves who you are, not what you come off as.

J.